15 Oct 2016 10:17:50
Hi all Ed's and Red's hope it's ok if I share this with you guys.
I posted in June about my-mother-in law loosing her brave but short battle against lung cancer and she was only 60.She was a real Dub originally from the inner city then moved out to Lucan. Anyway now it's my mother to suffer the same at 82 such is life lads. Unfortunately there has been a family row going on and as a result myself and my other brother haven't seen her as much as we should have but let's just say that there were other family members in her ear so we never stood a chance. She's in hospital now but refuses to see us even though she knows she's quite ill. We may not even make up but I've a family of my own so I can't let it destroy me and I also know the before this fall out I minded her like a baby but that's all forgotten about now. Anyway there's not much I can do just get on with things and hope she sees my before the end, I'll let you know.

{Ed002's Note - Barry, I am sorry to hear that you have found yourself in this difficult situation and that you have not been able to have the level contact that you would have liked with your mother. I would hope that someone with access to her can persuade her to see both you and your brother whilst she is able to. Regardless, I hope she can begin her onward jouney, to wherever that may be, without needing to suffer. If she is a believer then I hope that Gauranga, Moses, Gautama Buddha, Jesus, Allah or whomever provides safe passage.}

1.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 10:53:02
Really sorry to hear of your situation mate, not nice at all. As the saying goes, life's too short. I hope you get things sorted soon mate. YNWA.

2.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 11:55:43
Really sorry to hear all of that Barry. Family arguments are tough, i've seen it within my family and my partners family, and no one is ever really happy with how it plays out.

I hope with all my heart that you can reconcile with your mother, and be there for her in what will be difficult times. Whether it pans out like that or not, be strong, make everyone aware that you want to be there for her, and send out positive thoughts for her, whether you're with her or not.

I'm sure I speak for a lot of people when I say we're here for you if you need it, keep your chin up dude.

3.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 13:50:56
Really sorry to hear that Barry, all our thoughts are with you. I hope you get chance to speak to her but if unfortunately you don't, I'm glad to hear that you truly know you done a lot for her while you could and whether it be realisation before or after, she knows that as well.

4.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 15:02:30
I find it hard to talk about all this as I have a friend going through exactly the same disease but half your mums age.
All I can say is YNWA Barry.

5.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 15:34:13
Thank you so much for all your posts it means a lot.

6.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 15:49:23
Never give up Barry. Live with the knowledge it's not you and be in thought it is others doing this and not your Mum.
I wish you good luck in connecting with your mum again and I hope that Mum is okay

YNWA.

7.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 18:48:55
May the good Lord be with you and your family.

8.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 19:39:17
Its a tough one barry . Family arguments especially where illness is concerned, is really hard. I hope you and yours come through this together. Chin up redman.

9.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 20:03:23
Good luck I hope it all works out for the best stay strong.

10.) 15 Oct 2016
15 Oct 2016 23:34:21
So sorry to hear this Barry. Thoughts and prayers with you and your family.

11.) 16 Oct 2016
16 Oct 2016 00:00:31
It puts everything in perspective.

Life and relationships are precious.

I hope you and your family find a way through this as when the person dies all that's left is helpless regret. .

{Ed003's Note - I rarely edit liverpool posts never mind comment but on this I have to - Barry I echo 002's words and wish you all the strength you need,I'm not writing this for sympathy and don't want it but in the last few months I lost gran and mum in a matter of days and relationships between family were let's say difficult but through this and lots of people 'backing down' on previous rows (when I was just a child) I'm now friends with cousins,2nd cousins and their kids and we are all getting together soon to celebrate an important birthday as a family,It can be done.
I say this with tears in my eyes,you really must try at least - god bless you all and chin up.}

12.) 16 Oct 2016
16 Oct 2016 17:38:46
I know ed.

Theres nothing left afterwards only an emptiness.
Ynwa.